Courtney Burkholder

As summer winds down and parents utilize their last dregs of summer entertainment energy on one final dip in the pool, one more trip to the water slides, or one last sleepover on a school night — there is actually someone who has been thinking about and anticipating that first day of school as much as you.

That’s right, Mom and Dad.  You’re not the only one counting down the days until little Johnny or Jill returns to school.  For several weeks now, teachers all over San Antonio have been busy preparing for your children, strategizing on how to bring a collection of personalities into a cohesive class, determining the best way to put a mass of knowledge into your kids’ heads, and establishing ways to bring out the very best in each and every child.

I often hear parents talking about their child’s new teachers in hushed tones.  “This one is hard.” “That one is demanding.” “Don’t get on that teacher’s bad side or your child will surely fail!”

Many parents have an irrational fear of talking to teachers about their child because they don’t want to make waves.  What if I make them angry?  What if they classify me as one of “those” parents and take it out on my child? 

Well, I say, that’s a load of bull! 

The one person who wants to see your child succeed as much as you do is his or her teacher.  You’re on the same team; therefore, communication is essential.  I have never approached a teacher to talk about my child’s education only to be turned away and told to mind my own business.  In fact, it’s been quite the opposite.  My children’s teachers have always been open and willing to answer my questions and listen to my concerns. They appreciate knowing that in you, they have an ally. An involved, supportive parent is just as important in a child’s education as a good teacher.  And with strong support coming from the classroom and the home, your child’s chances of success are excellent.

Now, let’s set up some ground rules.  Walking in to “Meet the Teacher Night” with a list of little Johnny’s likes and dislikes to discuss is probably not the best idea.  If you have special concerns about your child, call and set up an appointment with the teacher either before school starts or during a conference period. 

You know your child better than anyone else.  If you have information that you feel will benefit the teacher and your child in creating a good relationship and a positive school experience, then share it!  You are your child’s strongest advocate.  Teachers aren’t mind-readers, and they have many students they are getting to know at the beginning of the school year.  If there is something they can do to help your child transition into their class, I guarantee you they want to know it!

Now, storming into the classroom, demanding that little Johnny be granted extra snacks during the day may not get you the results that you want.  I don’t know about you, but anything that gets demanded of me, I tend to do with as little effort as possible.  But if your child has a particular need, explain the problem and offer your suggestions.  The teacher may have suggestions, as well, and it’s important that you listen and be open to new ideas.  Remember, you both have your child’s best interest at heart.

Keep the lines of communication between you and your child’s teacher open.  Let them know that you are interested in your child’s progress and willing to do whatever needs to be done to ensure your child’s success.  Find out their preferred mode of communication - telephone, e-mail, or hand-written note in the backpack – and don’t be afraid to check in with them every once in a while. 

Your child’s education is a joint venture between you and their teacher.  So start the school year off right.  A strong, healthy relationship between you and your child’s teacher can make all the difference between a good and bad school year.  Don’t risk it!  Make it a good one!